Dear Limo Princess,
My husband and I will be celebrating our 50th anniversary on July 5, 2008. We have family out of state and we would like to send them an announcement regarding our anniversary. How do we do this, or should it be from one of our children? We are not having a large party but small ones inviting people to a lunch at the beach house rented for us by our daughter. You might ask if I am looking for gifts. My answer is they would be appreciated if sent. Do I mention gifts are acceptable---that feels really weird and not appropriate. I need some help as to the best way to handle this. Thank you.appreciate your input.
Dear Terry,
Yours is an unusual question, I think that every golden anniversary question I've received in the past has been how to keep people from sending gifts! Unless you are having a large party to celebrate, an announcement would seem to be gift fishing. Send invitations to the events you are having and of course prompt thank-you notes for all gifts received. Congratulations on your anniversary!
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Graduation gift for brother-in-law
Dear Limo Princess,
My brother in law is graduating from Medical School. He and my wife dont have the greatest relationship, he is always mean to her, calling her stupid and whatnot (not very mature of a med school graduate). Nevertheless, my mother-in-law wants us to give him $500 and I think that is way too much, especially to someone that would show no appreciation for it. Mike
Dear Mike,
Many doctors are arrogant asses, but this doesn't seem to keep them from being good doctors. I admire and commend your defense of your wife and sympathize with you for having a jerk for a brother-in-law.That being said, it is your Mother-in-law's money and her decision so she has every right to give him whatever amount she wants for his med school graduation. You, however, can enjoy the knowledge that he is probably $250,000.00 in debt with student loans and will have to work like a dog for the next 3-5 years (48 hour shifts) with his internship and residency and will be AT LEAST 300K in the hole when he is finally finished training. Let him have the $500--believe me he needs it, and the road ahead of him is rocky--perhaps it will teach him to be a decent person too.
Blessings, Limo Princess
My brother in law is graduating from Medical School. He and my wife dont have the greatest relationship, he is always mean to her, calling her stupid and whatnot (not very mature of a med school graduate). Nevertheless, my mother-in-law wants us to give him $500 and I think that is way too much, especially to someone that would show no appreciation for it. Mike
Dear Mike,
Many doctors are arrogant asses, but this doesn't seem to keep them from being good doctors. I admire and commend your defense of your wife and sympathize with you for having a jerk for a brother-in-law.That being said, it is your Mother-in-law's money and her decision so she has every right to give him whatever amount she wants for his med school graduation. You, however, can enjoy the knowledge that he is probably $250,000.00 in debt with student loans and will have to work like a dog for the next 3-5 years (48 hour shifts) with his internship and residency and will be AT LEAST 300K in the hole when he is finally finished training. Let him have the $500--believe me he needs it, and the road ahead of him is rocky--perhaps it will teach him to be a decent person too.
Blessings, Limo Princess
College Graduation
Question:
As a graduate sending out announcements, can I have a note on my announcement telling people NOT to send money. I don't want my relatives to feel obligated as they have already pawned up money for high school graduation, bachelors degree graduation, and part of my trip to Panama. I am graduating with my Masters.
Answer:
Yes you can. You simply add the words "No Gifts Please" to the announcements.Congratulations, I know how much work it is to get a Master's degree.
As a graduate sending out announcements, can I have a note on my announcement telling people NOT to send money. I don't want my relatives to feel obligated as they have already pawned up money for high school graduation, bachelors degree graduation, and part of my trip to Panama. I am graduating with my Masters.
Answer:
Yes you can. You simply add the words "No Gifts Please" to the announcements.Congratulations, I know how much work it is to get a Master's degree.
High school graduation gifts or cards?
Question:
Hi Limo Princess!
My daughter is graduating from high school this year and she has asked me a very interesting question that I myself am not sure how to answer.... She has friends and acquaintainces who are graduating along with her, and therefore there will be plenty of open house party invites... Some of her friends are ones that we, as her parents, have gotten a chance to get to know and I would like to give them a gift (card with $); there are also some that I don't know as well, and some that I have barely met (if at all.) My daughter asked me last night what would be the proper gift to give (if any). My daughter has next to no money of her own, so it's not a practical option for her to give cash gifts to everyone. I admit that if my daughter weren't also graduating this year, I may feel better prepared to give her friends a bigger check than it feels as though I can afford at this time. And then there was the comment my daughter made "If we all give money to each other, aren't we just defeating the purpose and trading the same money back and forth?" I'm not sure about this one. Please advise. We are not wealthy, but live in an area where just about everyone is comfortable, at least. There are a few friends who I know have some money issues and those are the ones I would feel especially like giving a check to, but I guess I need some ideas. Is it cheap if my daughter just gives a nice card to most of her friends? Thanks head of time for your answer, Linsey
Linsey,
You are not obligated to give a gift to anyone unless you attend their party--and even then it can be something small or a card. Teens use High School graduation to extract gifts from everyone they have ever met and it's ridiculous. The rule I use is if it's someone my child give/receives a birthday gift from, they are close enough to rate a graduation gift. If not, maybe a card. Graduating from high school is not an excuse to hold up your friends and family for gifts although most high school seniors use it as a way to fish for gifts.
Hi Limo Princess!
My daughter is graduating from high school this year and she has asked me a very interesting question that I myself am not sure how to answer.... She has friends and acquaintainces who are graduating along with her, and therefore there will be plenty of open house party invites... Some of her friends are ones that we, as her parents, have gotten a chance to get to know and I would like to give them a gift (card with $); there are also some that I don't know as well, and some that I have barely met (if at all.) My daughter asked me last night what would be the proper gift to give (if any). My daughter has next to no money of her own, so it's not a practical option for her to give cash gifts to everyone. I admit that if my daughter weren't also graduating this year, I may feel better prepared to give her friends a bigger check than it feels as though I can afford at this time. And then there was the comment my daughter made "If we all give money to each other, aren't we just defeating the purpose and trading the same money back and forth?" I'm not sure about this one. Please advise. We are not wealthy, but live in an area where just about everyone is comfortable, at least. There are a few friends who I know have some money issues and those are the ones I would feel especially like giving a check to, but I guess I need some ideas. Is it cheap if my daughter just gives a nice card to most of her friends? Thanks head of time for your answer, Linsey
Linsey,
You are not obligated to give a gift to anyone unless you attend their party--and even then it can be something small or a card. Teens use High School graduation to extract gifts from everyone they have ever met and it's ridiculous. The rule I use is if it's someone my child give/receives a birthday gift from, they are close enough to rate a graduation gift. If not, maybe a card. Graduating from high school is not an excuse to hold up your friends and family for gifts although most high school seniors use it as a way to fish for gifts.
husband doesn't answer/return calls
My husband often ignores calls that come in on his cell phone from his friends. He's not necessarily busy with anything at the time, he just doesn't feel like answering or talking to them and it's not like there are that many calls. We're talking about just a few friends. One friend frequently gets annoyed at this, because not only does he ignore the calls, but doesn't even return the call in a timely manner, or at all. Last night a friend he only talks to about once a month called and he again ignored it. Tonight I asked if he ever returned the call and he said he hadn't even listened to the message yet. I told him that I thought he was being rude and I was glad he wasn't one of my friends (I didn't mean it like it sounds of course). So am I out of line to think he should answer his friend's calls, or does the availability of caller id grant us that prerogative?
Dear Danica,
As you have noticed, there are very few calls. As time goes by there will be none at all since even the most devoted friend will abandon him eventually and he has only himself to blame. It's rude not to return phone calls when people leave messages but obviously he doesn't care or he'd return the calls. When he has no friends, you will know why. His behavior is no reflection on you and you aren't responsible for him so ignore it--there's nothing you can do anyway and he will learn what I have told you already in time. Obviously you are a lovely and polite person, but there's nothing you can do without antagonizing your husband, so let it go.
Dear Danica,
As you have noticed, there are very few calls. As time goes by there will be none at all since even the most devoted friend will abandon him eventually and he has only himself to blame. It's rude not to return phone calls when people leave messages but obviously he doesn't care or he'd return the calls. When he has no friends, you will know why. His behavior is no reflection on you and you aren't responsible for him so ignore it--there's nothing you can do anyway and he will learn what I have told you already in time. Obviously you are a lovely and polite person, but there's nothing you can do without antagonizing your husband, so let it go.
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